10 Habits That Turned Me Into a Soft Life Luxury Boss Babe (and Skyrocketed My Confidence)

Laketta Willis
Jul 23
3 min read

Updated: Jul 25

Let me keep it real with you—I spent years grinding, striving, and pushing like my next breakthrough was always one all-nighter away. I was team “no days off,” “sleep when I’m dead,” “grind now, glow later.” But spoiler alert: I was exhausted.And the glow-up? Wasn’t glowing. I kept finding myself back at square one, wondering: “Why do I feel like I’m working harder than ever but getting nowhere?”I was doing all the “right” things:

✔️ Waking up at 5AM

✔️ Overloading my to-do list

✔️ Burning out before Wednesday

✔️ Saying yes when I should’ve said “girl, bye”

Then it hit me—I wasn’t building the life I wanted. I was surviving one I didn’t even like. So I made a decision... I quit the hustle culture like a bad situationship and stepped into my Soft Life Era with intention, ease, and luxury.

Here are the 10 habits that completely transformed my confidence, mindset, and lifestyle—and helped me become the soft life boss babe I was always meant to be:

1. Work When It Works for Me

I stopped romanticizing “waking up at 5AM” just because some random bruh on YouTube said millionaires do it. Instead, I chose the time of day my brain actually works. I work smart, not just early.

2. Let Go of Dead Weight, Period

If it drains my energy, steals my peace, or triggers anxiety—it’s gotta go.Behaviors, beliefs, people, places— nobody and nothing is above eviction in this season.

3. Time Block Like a CEO

I don’t “hope” I get things done anymore. I block out time, assign a task, and stick to it like a red lip on a rainy day.And when life throws a curveball? I pivot—not panic.

4. Log Out to Tap In

Social media was lowkey blocking my blessings. So I gave myself a one-hour daily limit—and some days, I don’t log in at all. That space? Pure creativity and peace. I'm telling ya it's da best thing eva!

5. Protect My Peace with Boundaries That Bite

Listen—access to me is a privilege, not a right.I started setting boundaries and meaning it. The “can I pick your brain?” texts? Declined. The energy vampires? Blocked. This peace is non-negotiable.

6. Affirm It, Then Act On It

Every day—six times a day—I speak life over my goals, my future, and my name. Pair that with prayer? Sis, the mountains move. Do ya hear meh?!

7. Hard Pass on Hustle Culture

Toxic hustle culture had me thinking burnout was a badge of honor.

Not anymore. I slowed all theeee way down, focused on aligned action, and chose joy, not just productivity.

8. Prioritize Rest Like My Life Depends on It—Because It Does

I don’t just rest. I romanticize my rest. Candles. Silk robe. Face mask. No guilt. Just softness. Because your nervous system deserves peace.Your body deserves grace and your goals? They’ll wait until you’re rested and radiant.

9. Miss Me with the Negativity

If the convo doesn’t uplift, inspire, or spark joy—I’m out. Protecting your mental space is self-care. Gossip, chaos, energy shifts? Nope.

10. Move Like You Love Yourself

I walk, I stretch, I dance in my kitchen to Beyoncé with my headscarf on. Movement is medicine. Joy is therapy and nothing screams confidence like a woman in motion, unbothered and glowing.

💖 Final Word, Sis and I promise you I'll hush:

You don’t have to break yourself to build the life you want.You don’t have to grind yourself into the ground to be successful. The soft life is not a trend—it’s a decision and confidence? She’s built one aligned habit at a time. You deserve ease. You deserve joy. You deserve luxury, so go ahead and live like it.